How would you respond in these situations?
1. A preacher and his wife are very, very poor. They already have 14 kids. Now she finds out she is pregnant with the 15th. They’re living in tremendous poverty. Considering their poverty and the excessive world population, would you consider recommending she get an abortion?
2. The father is sick with the sniffles, the mother has TB. Of their four children, the first is blind, the second has died, the third is deaf, the fourth has TB. She finds out she’s pregnant again. Given this extreme situation, would you consider recommending abortion?
3. A white man raped a 13 year old black girl and now she’s pregnant. If you were her parents, would you consider recommending abortion?
4. A teenage girl is pregnant. She’s not married. Her fiance’ is not the father of the baby, and he’s upset. Would you recommend abortion?
If you answered ‘Yes’ to any of the above:
In the first case you would have killed John Wesley, one of the greatest evangelists in the 19th century. In the second case, you would have killed Beethoven. In the third case, you would have killed Ethel Waters, the great black gospel singer. If you said yes to the fourth case, you would have declared the murder of Jesus Christ!
God is the Author of life, and he has given every single individual supreme value. Each life–whether inside or outside the womb–should therefore be valued by us. God knows the plans He has for each individual and has written in His book all the days ordained for us before even one of them came to be. When we presume to know better than God who should be given life, we are putting ourselves in the place of God and are guilty of idolatry.
Words of wisdom from Charles H. Spurgeon:
If any man thinks ill of you, do not be angry with him, for you are worse than he thinks you to be. If he charges you falsely on some point, yet be satisfied, for if he knew you better he might change the accusation, and you would be no gainer by the correction. If you have your moral portrait painted and it is ugly, be satisfied, for it only needs a few blacker touches, and it would be still nearer the truth.
How very true!
What an unspeakable blessing it is to be allowed to lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty, free from the tempests which have tossed the barks of so many good men, of whom David was but a sample. But let us not forget that a calm which puts us to sleep may be more fatal than a storm which keeps us wide awake. David was in more danger when he was attracted by the beauty of Bathsheba, then when Saul was pursuing him in the wilderness.
–William S. Plumer Psalms p. 640
When a man is disrespected it is as if the muscles were being ripped from his bones. When a woman is not loved, it is like her head has been brought low and her hair shaved off. Fighting can occur when a man is disrespected or a woman does not feel loved. But, when one is disrespected and the other is not loved, there is a secret to stop it from continuing into a fight…
Fighting does not exist in my marriage. You also can enjoy a marriage like that.
I can honestly say that my husband and I have never fought in our marriage. Pretty crazy, right? Our secret is simple…I, the woman, refuse to fight. Yes, we have many disagreements. Yes, we argue (civilly). But, thanks to my mother, I have been groomed to understand social cues. I know when my husband and I are getting into a heated discussion. At this point, I am done with the conversation. I submit to my husband’s decision—even if I am convinced he is wrong.
“My husband can’t fight with me, when I won’t.”
God has placed my husband as the prime authority of our household. He is the one who will answer to God for the decisions which are made. Yes, my job is to help him make those decisions, but in the end, it is up to him. I give him the right of way. I defer. But, I will converse, bring facts and opinions to the table, and help him in making decisions. Thankfully, I have a husband who listens to me and hears what I have to say. He values my opinion and asks of it regularly.
“If there is fighting in a marriage, it is the woman’s fault.”
A husband will feel his authority is being trampled upon when his wife disrespects him. When she crosses the line of disregarding her husbands authority, a good husband will stop at nothing to ensure that his authority will not be usurped. A woman will typically fight with her husband when she knows she can get away with it. But, hands down, if there is fighting, it is the woman’s fault for not submitting to her husband.
“If there is no love in a marriage, it is the man’s fault.”
Not only does it take two to tango, it takes practice and attention to detail to make the tango a beautiful dance. A man who does not show his wife that he loves her not only disdains her, but disobeys God’s command to love his wife. A loving husband will do what is best for his family. Note: this might not look as the wife would expect. This loving man will die to his own selfish desires and lift up his wife, washing her in the Word and not be harsh. While this may be difficult, when it comes to fighting in general, it is impossible to fight with someone who refuses to. As difficult and as ‘unfair’ as one might think, the wife must defer to her husband’s leadership.
This is the secret: It is impossible to fight with someone who doesn’t want to.
Many conflicts in my marriage have been prevented from turning serious—into a fight. It has saved me much grief and I only hope it will save you as well.
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We live in such a beauteous and pleasant world–we are so surrounded with so much that is smiling and mirthful–that if we were not often obliged to taste of sickness or trial or disappointments–we would soon forget our heavenly home and pitch our tents permanently in this Sodom.
Therefore it is that God’s people pass through great tribulations; therefore it is they are often called upon to suffer the sting of affliction and anxiety–or weep over the grave of those whom they have loved as their own soul.
It is their Father’s hand that chastens them!
It is thus He weans their affection from things below, and fixes them on Himself. It is thus He trains them for eternity, and cuts the threads that bind their truant hearts to earth one by one.
No doubt such chastening is grievous for the time, but still it brings many a hidden grace to light, and cuts down many a secret seed of evil. We shall see those who have suffered most, shining among the brightest stars in the assembly of Heaven. “Our light affliction endures but for a moment, and it works for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory!” 2 Corinthians 4:17
The purest gold is that which has been longest in the refiner’s furnace.
The brightest diamond is often that which has required the most grinding and polishing.
The saints are men who have come out of great tribulation–they are never left to perish in it.
The last night of weeping will soon be spent,
the last wave of trouble will have rolled over us, and
then we shall have a peace that passes all understanding!
We shall be at home forever with the Lord!
“Therefore comfort one another with these words!” 1 Thessalonians 4:18
Wonderful reminder….to God be all glory!
God can preserve us in the midst of the direst hazards. Neither on purpose nor in resources is God ever wanting to his faithful children. The danger cannot be so great, that in it help may not be had from God. No man knows what plots may now be laid against his person, or name, or life, and it is not necessary that he should, for his defense is not in himself but in another. God can so overrule and outwit the devices of our enemies that they shall either adopt foolish measures or he will defeat their wise counsels. He can do either. He has often done both.
–William S. Plumer. Psalms. P. 639